What Makes Women Laugh

The first question we need to ask ourselves is “what makes women laugh?” Or rather, what makes people laugh?

As Ken Dodd pointed out, “A laugh is a noise that comes out of a hole in your face. – Anywhere else and you are in big trouble.” Well, why do we as human beings laugh after all?

We often heard the phrase, “I can’t help laughing at it.” But we seldom heard such saying like “I did my best to laugh”, or “try to laugh a bit more.” That is because the harder you try laughing, the less likely you will succeed.

There is so far no biological explanation of the true mechanism of laughter, but there are a handful of basic psychological factors contributing to laughter, which itself can be categorized into many kinds.

Some guys talk about the “art” of making women laugh.

Sure, they can call themselves “artists” as they like, but the problem is… once something becomes an art, you won’t have rules to rely on and you can’t measure the results. Making women laugh suddenly becomes an uncertain event.

But the fact is…Making women laugh is a science.

I’ve devoted the past 5 years of my life to study the science of making women laugh, which involved tons of textbook theories. It could get quite intimidating, dry and technical, contrary to what you might think.

I came to the conclusion that human beings’ reactions to different types of “humor stimuli” are predictable. And there are tested-and-proven methods to match a humorous line and a subject’s education, personality, and cultural background to create laughter. Any man, regardless of looks, intelligence, education, and personality, can learn the mechanism of humor and laughter and develop his own style of humor.

Remember the last time you met a long-lost friend and laughed at things that happened long ago? It could be an anecdote involving the teacher you disliked. To someone else outside your social contacts it might not be funny at all. You laughed because you can find incongruence between two things, which may appear perfectly normal to someone else…

There are many ways to make women laugh.

You can do so by making a woman feel happy such as sending her flowers, talking sweetly to her and make her feel in love. You can make a woman laugh by making her feel intrigued such as telling her a story, performing magic tricks, or showing her an exquisite painting. You can also make her laugh by tricking her into a funny situation or a funny realization such as making fun of her or asking her lame riddles which she would never be able to solve…

The possibilities are endless. And in order to qualify as a funny guy, you should be able to:

  1. Think funny (creativity)
  2. Talk funny (tonality)
  3. Write funny (wisdom)
  4. Act funny (body language)

So here goes the more formal reason of laughter:

The human brain cannot accommodate two fundamentally conflicting ideas at the same time. The logic of our minds needs to give vent to such tension, released through laughter.

That explains why a restrained laughter doesn’t feel as good as an unrestrained one.

And what factors can possibly induce such a conflict?

  • Punch line: whatever you heard at last is in conflict with what you initially thought. This is also called a surprise, which can be of many kinds:
    • Unconventional: something that contradicts the custom. For example, if you see the sentence, “Mary had a little lamb”, what comes to your mind? And what do you think happened to Mary?
      Now here’s the punch line: “Her gynecologist had a heart attack”.
      And how about this: “two fish in the tank”. What kind of picture do you see?
      The second part: “one fish to another, ‘do you know how to drive this thing?’”.
      You see, we laugh because of our inability to take those ideas as “normal” and absorb it.
    • Ambiguity: when a word has a different meaning under different circumstances.
      For example, “Do you agree with sex before marriage?” “Not if it holds up the ceremony.”
      The preposition “before” can denote different amount of time, depending on how you perceive it. In this case, we were once again tricked into a conflict between two possible interpretations of the same word.
  • Thinking about an “inappropriate” implication. For example, the word “it” often comes with a sexual connotation. Once we relate sex to something serious we cannot help laughing because it is both hilarious and inappropriate.
    Consider this one: “Have you finished the book I lent you?” “Can I give it to you later?” “Sure, but can I have my book back too?”
  • Contradictions within a joke. The most obvious type of conflict and typically a trick on socially agreed meaning of a word, phrase, or idiom.
    Patent: “Doctor, I’m going to die in 50 seconds.” Doctor, “Hold on, I’ll be with you in a minute.”
    You and I both know that “one minute” here doesn’t really mean exactly 60 seconds. The joke forces us to think “one minute” in speech is really just one minute and one minute only, thus introducing a conflict with our past experience.
  • Exaggeration. Needless to say, something that is out of proportion will be in direct conflict with its agreed perception. We say “that is not possible” and then laugh because that is incongruent with our experience. We usually hear people say, “…is so…” and that can be frequently used as a basic structure in exaggeration jokes.
    For example, “He is so stupid that he has the intelligence of a walnut.
  • Pacing. Also known as “the rule of three.” I am sure you have heard of jokes involving 3 people of different nationalities. And that is an instance of pacing. It works in this way: the first 2 subjects are reasonable, albeit increasingly unbelievable, but the third delivers an extreme conflict. You probably have read jokes starting with “3 people on a train” or “3 people on an island”…
    Here’s one which you might have seen before:

One day 3 people were stuck on an island with cannibals. The cannibals said, “If you do what we say, we won’t kill you”. So the 3 people followed the orders from the cannibals.

The cannibals said, “Go into the forest and pick 10 pieces of the first kind of fruit you see”.

So the first person came back out of the forest with 10 apples. The cannibals said, “Stick the apples up in your ass without making a facial expression”. The person then frowned in pain after the second apple, so the cannibals killed him.

The second person came back out of the forest with 10 cherries. The cannibals said, “Put the cherries up your ass without making a facial expression”. The person then started laughing on the tenth cherry, so they killed him.

In heaven, the person with apples asked the person with cherries “why did you start laughing at the tenth cherry? You were almost there”. The person replied, “I saw the third person come out with pineapples.”

  • Stereotype and insider jokes. We laugh usually because we know something is not true and sometimes we laugh because we realize that the description is exactly We find it funny because “it was not supposed to be like that, but it is indeed like that!” (if you know what I’m talking about.) Again, conflict. Such stereotyping jokes can be simply created by telling the plain truth, as Mark Twain said, “Get the facts first. You can distort them later.
  • Superiority, stupidity, absurdity. These belong to an altogether different category of reasons for laughter. Here we laugh because we feel good about ourselves, such as when we observe stupid acts or hear absurd ideas. This is also why we don’t tend to laugh (as hard) when stupidity befalls on ourselves.