Basics of Humor

Fitting the Conversation

Be natural. Never attempt to stage a joke. Cracking a joke is so different from acting in a Shakespeare play.

No matter what type of jokes you tell, they should be relevant to either what just happened or what was said last. If your jokes come out of nowhere, she won’t appreciate it.

One-liners or short jokes usually work better than long ones because they fit conversations better. In fact, if you plan to tell a long joke, it’d better be really, really funny and appropriate.


Sometimes, it’s not what you say that makes her laugh and how you say it, but also when you say it. Have you ever been in situations where you said something totally normal in a funny situation but your friend laughed? You could have said anything at that moment and it might still sound funny.

That’s why timing is critical. What is funny a minute ago might not be half as funny a minute later. You must seize the right opportunity to demonstrate humor at the right time. It may be just a few seconds, but those few seconds are all you’ve got.

That’s why forming a humor habit (as we talked about earlier) is so important when it comes to making women laugh.

You also need to know the right time to stop. After you’ve made a woman laugh, cool down a bit. Use your joke to spin conversations towards a new direction, and repeat the process. In that way you won’t appear to be pleasing her all the time while you can still show your “humor creativity”.

That means you need to develop a sensory acuity by observation. A woman’s posture, facial expressions, eyes, gestures, leg movements, etc. all serve as distinct clues to tell you when to make her laugh. Sometimes just by looking at her parted lips or tense facial muscle, you can gauge whether it’s a good idea to say a particular line at that moment.

The truth is… Most men aren’t aware of the countless opportunities in life to be funny.

How much different is the life of a humorous guy from that a boring guy? Do you seriously think external events happening to them are completely different in nature? Of course not. The differences lie in their reactions to the same type of events. One sees something as interesting or funny whereas the other takes it for granted.

But don’t be discouraged. Relax. Remember what I told you about taking actions? Tell a couple of jokes to a woman and don’t expect too much at first. You’ll get better faster than you’d expect.

“Test The Waters”

Different types of women may find completely different things to be equally funny.

Knowing what type of humor suits a particular woman’s taste is critical in making her laugh. You never want to tell the wrong jokes that offend her instead of entertaining her. Even after you’ve successfully made her laugh, if you still don’t have a clue of what she likes and what kind of humor works on her, you might just miss a step and end the show.

Therefore, find out as much information about her as possible in this aspect. Keep a mental record of the jokes she laughed at when you’re communicating with her (I’ll teach you a few awesome memory tricks later in this book), so that you can always return to the same type of jokes since you know they’d work on her.

Don’t just deliver a joke to woman. Target her with the right humor.

Of course, we can’t tell what kind of humor works on her right from the beginning. So we need to “test water”.

Tell Universal Jokes First

You can easily tell if she’s not in a mood for jokes and if she has a special taste. Your first objective is to locate her “sweet spot” for humor.

There are many types of so-called universal jokes which are safe to tell anyone. They typically involve kids, hobbies, animals, nature, etc. Go with them and you can never be wrong.

Years ago, there was this research conducted by Laugh Lab to identify the funniest universal joke. After hundreds of thousands of votes they had a winner:

A couple of New Jersey hunters are out in the woods when one of them falls to the ground. He doesn’t seem to be breathing; his eyes are rolled back in his head. The other guy whips out his cell phone and calls the emergency services. He gasps to the operator: “My friend is dead! What can I do?” The operator, in a calm soothing voice, says: “Just take it easy. I can help. First, let’s make sure he’s dead.” There is a silence, and then a shot is heard. The guy’s voice comes back on the line. He says: “OK, now what?”

Never Show Your Trump Card Too Early

Have you met people who would say, “I’m gonna tell you a joke” or “here is a joke for you”… which almost never worked?

Never begin a joke by indicating it is one, such as “I got a great joke”, “let me tell you something funny”, “you are gonna love this joke”.

Think about it yourself. When you were told this the last time, did you really laugh whole-heartedly or did you force yourself to laugh though it didn’t meet your expectation? And did it put pressure on you?

Sure, it can possibly win some “sympathy laughter” but disclosing your plan to tell a joke will invariably destroy all the tension you intend to build.

In rare cases, you do need to suggest you’re joking—when people miss the punch line or totally don’t “get it” (usually it’s because of your overly serious tone or manner).

If such tragedy happens, your best bet is to smile or make a face right away to indicate it’s a joke. If the same thing happens more than twice for the same joke, do not tell it for some time. Although you find it extremely hilarious at the moment, you might soon look at it in different light.

Smile. Don’t Laugh.

If you laugh at your own joke, you may spoil the punch line.

You can smile, but don’t laugh.

This is common sense, but it’s sometimes hard to follow. That’s why comedians sometimes practice telling their jokes so many times until they get bored and won’t laugh at the punch line.

Here’s how you can practice. Pick a good joke. Stand in front of the mirror and tell the joke to yourself with some acting. Do it until you won’t feel the urge to laugh at the punch line. This will get you used to telling a joke while looking at someone. There’s a big difference between reading a joke and performing one. Observing your own performance will improve your body language.

If you feel like losing control when you’re telling the joke, try not to stifle your laughter. Instead, casually pick a filler (for example, “well, that’s how everything happened so far…and…um…”) and think about something else not funny at all (for example, “what’s the color of the wall? Who invented the telephone? What day is it tomorrow?”).

Just concentrating for a split second on something that is utterly unrelated to the joke will help you continue the delivery of it.

Contingency Plan

“Worst comes worst”, you don’t get any laugh at all. What’s the big deal?

Well, it’s no big deal. But how about turning it around and make it into an opportunity for laughter? That’s why you always need to “prepare for the worst”.

Think of how you can relieve yourself from the awkwardness. Many people use, “o—kay—not funny…” or “yeah, you guys must be thinking… arrrgh, not funny at all” and act if devastated.

My favorite is, “Okay that was the joke. Now you may laugh…” If you do get a laugh then, make bow and an exaggerated smug face if you want to.

You can even insult the listener if you’re bold enough. Roll up your eyes and say something like, “I knew it! This is the kind of response you get from a New York girl…”, assuming she told you she’s from New York—it can be any information she’s disclosed to you so far—that’s the exaggeration technique which we’ll talk about later).

Those are so called saver lines, which usually work pretty well with woman. But don’t count on saver lines. They are, after all, “the last straws”.

Remember I told you not to laugh at your own joke? Well, here’s the exception. If no one laughs, you laugh. Then they’ll think they are stupid because they didn’t laugh.

And they’ll laugh.